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Divorce and money not necessarily linked

Divorce and money not necessarily linked

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Traditional wisdom states money is among the leading causes of divorce, but experts say this often-quoted fact may be grounded more in myth or history than in modern reality. Is Money Among Top Causes of Divorce? Money may not be the marriage-buster it is commonly thought to be, Alison Lobron reports in the Jan. 18, 2009, Boston Globe article, “Does Money Really Wreck a Marriage?” Lobron contends that married couples can argue over issues about money but research shows divorce and money problems don’t have to go hand in hand. “I'd heard for years this idea that money was the number one cause of divorce, but I'd never seen any empirical data,” Utah consumer economist Jan Andersen told Lobron. Andersen teaches workshops on personal finance at Utah State University. When research
Four negative behavior patterns in love marriage problem

Four negative behavior patterns in love marriage problem

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Love marriage problem - All marriage partners have love marriage problem. All marriage partners have arguments from time to time and these may cause them to fall into negative behavior patterns. John M. Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman describe some of these love marriage problem behaviors in their book, 10 Lessons to Transform your Marriage (Crown Publishers, 2006). They also give advice on how to turn negative reactions and conflict into positive confrontations. Criticism Within a Love Marriage Problem When people marry and live together, it is easy for faults to be magnified and tempers to rise. Small irritations develop into big issues and husbands and wives start to accuse and criticize each other. Critical statements often begin with, “You always,” or “You never.” Crit
Divorce therapy and how to succeed at co-parenting

Divorce therapy and how to succeed at co-parenting

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Most parents want to help their children develop into healthy individuals even after divorce, believes divorce therapy experts. They can often find ways to overcome the disagreements that led to the end of the marriage and when they are unable to stop divorce, even when they hold different values and perceptions. However, some parents find it very difficult to transcend these differences and become engaged in endless conflict that is harmful to the children and to each other, and to the godly relationships of course. Co-Parenting With Conflicted Parenting Styles Many family courts award joint custody, even when parents are in total disagreement about how to raise the children and express open hostility toward each other. These parents often find it difficult to work together, but it ...
Divorce, holiday stress and raising kids

Divorce, holiday stress and raising kids

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Divorce stress and holiday stress seem to magnify each other, and then there's the added issue of kids torn between two parents. Divorced parents should try to keep sane by turning off the TV, eating pre-cooked holiday meals, and keeping spending down. Stressed Out Just reading the words “divorce" and "holiday stress” is enough to make a contented, enlightened person dial up his therapist. But, adding children into the mix just makes winter holidays even more complicated. Divorce Stress Divorce brings quite a bit of stress and anxiety to parents. Most moms and dads have so many new problems that it can be difficult to keep track of them all, but here are a few: Attempting to maintain a decent lifestyle for their children on less money Having no partner to pick up the
Best books for women about divorce and separation

Best books for women about divorce and separation

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Here are three of the best books, for women, about divorce and separation. These books help women get through the emotional ups and downs of the divorce process and teach women how to avoid mistakes in the future. Surviving Separation and Divorce Surviving Separation and Divorce, by Loriann Hoff Oberlin (Adams Media Corporation, 2005), gives friendly support to women who are undergoing the radical changes following separation, and offers help with navigating the most difficult time of a divorcing woman's life. Oberlin’s book talks about the drastic changes that most women go through during the first weeks of a separation. This is a story about a woman who refused to allow herself to be emotionally drained or physically weak, because she could not help her children if she staye
Divorce therapy – Parenting preschoolers of divorce

Divorce therapy – Parenting preschoolers of divorce

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Divorce therapy - It is easier to parent children of divorce when a parent knows what to expect and how to handle their child's fears and feelings. Preschoolers may have nightmares, anger, and may feel that one parent is "bad".   Children and Divorce Therapy What do preschool age children understand about divorce? They usually can understand that: One of the parents no longer lives at home Divorce means that mommy and daddy will no longer be married Mommy and daddy no longer love each other Mommy and daddy will no longer live together About Preschoolers Preschoolers still don’t quite understand what has happened and what will happen. Children at this age would like to be able to control things. This is related to their stage of development and it’s quite norma